Sometimes in life, we come across some people. And before we
can even make up our minds about them, they become a major part of our lives.
Their judgment starts meaning a lot to us and we find ourselves captivated by
them.
Sometimes, these feelings are returned, and sometimes they
are not. We keep holding on to these relationships, but one day we realize that
we’re the only ones holding on. That hurts. All those messages, phone calls and
moments. We keep wondering if it ever meant anything to the other person. What
sucks the most is that most of the times, we have an answer.
Nobody said that life would be easy. Nothing is permanent.
All relationships have to come to an end one day. Even if not by choice, then
by fate. And even if not then, then death will do you part someday. Moving on
is hard. They say time heals all wounds. It doesn't. All it does is put a layer
of dust over them. So that time and again, when you scrape through, the remains
of the wound still remain – reminding you of everything that was.
The hardest part is figuring out what to do. Erase or forget?
Do you throw those letters and scrapbooks in the bin and delete the pictures
and messages or do you just let it be and try to get over it? I say, try the
latter. Because deleting every evidence of your relationship would be like
denying everything you had. And even if you do that, what happens to the
memories? They will always remain. And everytime you hear that person’s name or
think about them, it’ll all come rushing back.
I’m not saying that its easy. In fact, it’s the hardest
thing in the world to move on. And even when you do, those feelings will never
really go. They will always remain hidden underneath. But I guess, that’s the
best any of us can do. I don’t know if talking or not talking to that person
helps. But I feel it doesn’t. Because all you’re doing is trying to escape
reality. But one day, you’ll have to face it.
It is better to be a friend than to mean nothing to that
person at all. But keeping a little distance – at least till you’ve got
yourself together – is a good idea. Try to keep yourself busy. Friends, family,
work, school, assignments – they’re all good distractions. Your heart will do a
little jump every time you see their name flash on your phone screen and you
will be your happiest whenever you talk to them and you will always care for
them. There’s no escaping that.
But life is weird. If it hasn’t happened, then it wasn’t
supposed to. That person will always mean a lot to you and you will always
wonder if doing one thing differently would have made any difference. Well,
maybe it would have. You never know. And you cant blame yourself for it. So do
yourself a favour, and stop thinking so much. Because that’s where life gets
you. Thinking you have a choice. You don’t. What is meant to be will always
find its way. Believe in that. And someday, one day – you’ll realize that you're moving on.
